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Originally Posted by baseline
I have had self-esteem and trust issues for most of my life. my own mother is always pointing out problems with my hair my weight what i'm wearing etc etc. As if I don't own a mirror as if I don't beat myself up enough. i AM SO INSECURE AT TIMES i GET EMBARRASSED OR SAD WHEN SOMEONE says something nice about me.I can't believe them. O yea i also have self hate for allowing myself to be hurt by people I thought I could trust. .gif "Sad Girl") |
I totally get it. Even after 14 years my wife feels uncomfortable when I give her a compliment; tell her how pretty she is or how nice her hair looks or how smart she is. If I string them together she'll make me stop. Whatever it is, she gets really uncomfortable receiving compliments.
At some point you have let yourself take that compliment ...
I've got an idea! Whenever you accomplish a goal, you're supposed to reward yourself right? So when you write in a journal for a week, you reward yourself with some Oreo cookies or whatnot.
In this case though, make a conscious effort to recognize a compliment! Start simple. If someone reminds you that you have pretty eyes, stop and say, "That was a compliment, I'm going to take it as such." Then look in the mirror and say, "Yeah! I do have pretty eyes and dang it, I'm going to feel good about that compliment. They're right!"
Keep doing it and when you do feel good about it, then, just like accomplishing a goal, reward yourself. You deserve to feel good about getting a compliment so reward yourself for it.