Sunrise,

I thnk you really need to resolve the issue of your individual sessions. This is clearly bothering you as it would me. I also have had very mixed feelings about couples work and we (me and T) kind of put that discussion on hold without stating it.

In the for what it's worth category, I have been told by a trusted friend who is a T, that couples work is harder than individual. I think it's because it's another identity to work on and just as painful to look at the warts as it is when we look in the mirror. When it frays as the edges or unravels it is a part of ourselves that feels so fragile, just as it is in individual T. It's so confusing when we find ourselves in another person, but are fighting to pull ourselves out of that identity. Does that make any sense?

So your reaction is probably appropriate. I don't think you should cancel but if T doesn't call you back use the time you see him to ask for an individual appointment.

Good luck. It sounds like your are working really hard.

Peace.