I find that you are very invested in my case. Why is that? Do you have experience regarding divorce and division of assets? I'm yet reeling because I never expected the judge's ruling ordering to reimburse my ex 100% on the Conrad credit; like I said, should I have known this was possible, I would have asked for selling the house IMMEDIATELY after he left... But I decided to wait hoping for him to come back and I paid very dearly for my hope... And regarding the lows that were thrown at me during this hearing (mental illness, the suggestion of renting my house back in my country to my brother, poor him, with his income getting eating away by rampant inflation, was ludicrous, preposterous and offensive to say the least- I paid dearly for that house also). And now, I should go back to live like a graduate student, having left that period way back in the 90's... The only positive thing it was that the Honorable Judge ordered him to pay my attorney's fees: like I said, why should I pay for something that I never, ever wanted to happen??? It's HIS DIVORCE, he should pay for it. Very simple and blunt reasoning, and I was surprised that the Judge ordered him to pay for it. Anyway, I don't see/ feel/ recognize the ''equitable'' principle applied in this case: I moved out, I have not job prospects so far, I'm living in a rental unit that is the worst living arrangement since I came to this country twenty five years ago, I put into a savings account the money I got from the house sale -minus what I paid for the house abroad, the one where my brother is living in, and that's it, I'm living day to day... Fortunately, next month I'll be able to buy health insurance with the increase in alimony (this is going to allay my anxiety a little), don't have TV service in order to no spend on ''luxuries'', don't have a smartphone -only a prepaid cell phone, never eat out, don't go to movies, museums, whatever... and keep questioning myself what happened and why it happened. If my ex expect to amend the relationship with our children after all the mistreatment... he is way off in his thinking: the three of them are outraged and very upset about how he behaved and failed in his word before them.