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Originally Posted by SomeoneToTrust
Hi not quite right,
I know people will continue to push me around if I let them to do it. But the point is I'm very scared to confront others. I've never been rude to others but why others are being rude to me? Yes I've met good people in my life who are really polite and gentle but unfortunately I stumble upon mostly those who are just the opposite. I want to be treated well. Can you please tell me how to behave with others so that they stop make fun of me and also how I can stand up to people?
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Hi SomeoneToTrust,
People push you around because people have a c h a r m i n g instinct to attack or take advantage of someone who shows fear or uncertainty. You can see it on the playground. You can see animals do it all the way down to insects.
I also have a suggestion for what to do. It is an indirect solution, but I do believe that it will work. Go to this thread
http://forums.psychcentral.com/depre...n-escaped.html
and follow the instructions for "SNAP CLUB". This will get you in touch with the inner part of yourself that decides things. If you keep doing this, you'll see that you develop the calm confidence that comes from knowing and feeling that you are in charge of your own life. One of the side benefits of this is that you will find that people no longer instinctively attack or take advantage of you.
- vital