Thanks for all the info. Makes things a bit clearer.

The reason this memory is being targeted, is because although it doesn't cause distress, it doesn't do so for the wrong reasons. It's never been processed properly, which is why it's not a complete memory. Also, I think it was around the time of this event that I started being far too defensive over all minor upsets and now it's got to the point where I've become very avoidant and I find it hard to form relationships with people. My therapist hopes that if I can use a more helpful coping strategy with this trauma, then I can apply better methods with minor daily life issues. At the moment its just serving as a barrier and is stopping me feeling emotions.

Thanks again for your reply, I appreciate you taking the time