I am so effin proud of you, pardon my french. This is what normal people do. Well, normal people who arent hallucinating about how they treated their kids and what their actual relationship is like now. They just talk to each other like humans and set limits and respect each others boundaries. One doesnt just get to wave a magic wand and have everything their way. D'oh! I bet even martha stewart has to negotiate with her daughter. Or Cher with Chaz.