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Originally Posted by JL101010
Is it because I started standing up for myself more and he was losing control over me? Is it because I finally fought back when he attacked me? Will he ever contact me again, what’s the likelihood if he said he hasn’t wanted me for months?
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I read it all. I'm sorry, especially about the pregnancies and the violence
And in answer to the above questions...yes, that is why .he wants control and he doesn't want responsibility. The reason he stayed with the ex longer may be because she didn't go to the police and 'took it' so to to speak. However, it's also very possible that she and him did break up for periods in between that 11 years, and she may have even gone to the police, but then contact was resumed at some point and she took him back and the cycle continued. It's also possible that he was never with someone for 11 years- Sometimes people who act like this say that they've been in a longterm relationship to give the impression that they are able to maintain relationships and therefore imply that the problem must be you if things aren't working.It makes them sound more stable.
He probably will contact you again. I really hope you don't respond.Someone who can choke you unconscious is someone who could kill you...what if you hadn't come to? That is just awful to that to someone who is carrying your child.It is so terrible. there doesn't seem to be any redeeming aspect to this relationship.To choke someone unconscious is SEVERE abuse.
This man will bring you down.If he contacts you again, he will probably be very pleasant.You must not respond because it will all happen again.
And i got the same impression as the person who replied before me. Something tells me you could go back from the way you're talking.You really need to focus on your counselling and educate yourself about the cycle of abuse and domestic abuse in general
The Cycle of Abuse | Respect For Women
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