>You are making it very difficult for pretty much everyone to help you because you get defensive and assume the position of a hurt victim and not a problem-solver.
Yeah, saying to the person who just got dumped that "she did the right thing, no girl would ever hang out with you" is very helpful. And pointing in obvious reasons, saying that "he was just better than you" and justifying behavior of betrayers like they actions were totally fair and morally right is also very helpful. I asked about coping with specific emotions and you ignored that question.

>If you want to solve this problem, you need to be able to tolerate the thought of her choosing him because at that point you paled in comparison.
I faced it long time ago. I can't forgive myself for losing that competition because at the time i was stupid enough to did not see that this competition even started.

>That you think that you burned your bridges is not news to me, captain obvious, and when I suggested that you graciously resolve the situation by going back to them as a friend
Thank you for "suggestion". Its impossible to me to be "friend" with them after how they treated me.

>You do not necessarily know whether the ex best friend simply callously disregarded your best interest.
Yes, he did. He knew that going after bestfriend girlfriend is taboo, that its very wrong thing, but did it anyway.

>I am not clear how exactly the gf went from you to him, but it seems that she dropped you very soon after she got on with him.
She did not "dropped" me in classic way. She didn't say anything at all. She made me spent on her all my salary and more, i went to large debt to gave her different presents everyday and gave her impressions of different events and places, which also were expensive. She told that she was upset at our relationship, but could not explain what she was upset about in particular. One day she just turned off all her phones, started to ignore all my messages, all my attempts to contact her. Same thing did my friend. I didn't know whats going on and was in panic. It was 3 weeks like that. One day friend finally picked up phone and confessed in everything, said that she decided to dump me, but was afraid to tell me personally. Our last conversation was so traumatazing that i feel hurt even today with that memory.

>If you want this thread to be a rant, just say so. People post rants - it is OK - but they are upfront about it. You posted as a problem to solve and not as a rant, but you pretty much have resisted any attempt by anyone to give you suggestions by always being defensive.
I am defensive because your words are cruel and not helpful at all. Maybe you have hidden desire to help and if you have, i thank you for it. But it seems like your personality is so different from mine, that we can't understand each other. You never were in such circumstances as mine and because of it you have no empathy whatsoever. I wish to you to be in my place at some point. If your lover would tell he/she loves you, then drain all your energy and money and right after dump you to be with your bestfriend, without any explanation, just because you "paled in comparison", maybe then you will understand how i feel. I don't see sense in this thread anymore. Sorry for the "rant" i created.