Tantrums = not able to regulate emotions. Please do not punish her for it. Tantrums are normal.

Agree with above, do it with her, make a game of it. It takes ages to get kids to learn to tidy. at the moment I get my 3 year old to do stuff by making it a race, i.e. who can get dressed the fastest, who can tidy up lego bricks the fastest... it doesn't always work. What I've found though, is that when I get mad, I get more resistance and defiance. The calmer I stay, the more he cooperates.