So, updating further. This guy whose family wanted an arranged marriage - his mother wants more dowry (gifts to the groom in the form of money and gold). When we said that we can't afford so much, they never called us back.

As for my abusive ex, he has been threatening my dad that he will "take care" of my dad for insulting him (no one insulted him). His dad has blocked our phone numbers and we couldn't reach him. So we informed his friend who promised to help. Finally he called my dad and warned him to not call him or his family or friends, and he won't contact us again (hope it lasts).

Anyways, I did inform my bosses and leads at office, and they've promised to help with a location-change, and if things get out of hand, they also have promised to issue a warning to him. It is just so tough on all, especially mom n dad Their fear is that I won't get married. My fear is that I need to keep going through this all my life. I hate being so anxious all the time.