The title says it all. I'm struggling to love myself.

Ever since I got over an awful relationship months ago...I find that...I tend to like to hang out with guys a lot. They are fun to be with, I can be myself without being judged, and right now I have a sort of crush on one particular person, but we can't be together because of religious barriers.

I don't understand. Before my ex, I was fine with myself. Now...it's as if I need to be in a relationship to feel good. I find myself easily falling for guys and feeling the need to get into a relationship in order to define who I am, but I know I don't need to, no matter how tempting it is...

How do I start loving myself? Is loving myself even the problem the here? Thank you for reading.