My girlfriend and I were having sex the other night, out of nowhere she slapped, then punched, dug her nails into my arm then pressed into my chest as hard as she could. I was shocked... She jumped off me before finishing, although I think she was very close. I asked her if she was into hitting me, she said no, it was impulsive. We went to bed and didn t talk about it in the am.
Later the next day she texted me saying sorry I hit you. I told her if she wants to go down that road, it s something we have to discuss before it happens. In the past she has requested that I slap , choke and pull her hair, but only when she requests it. We later talked in person, I want her to be happy sexually and I m willing to experiment if it s something she is into. I started questioning her with an open mind if she likes it, she said she hit me, then she felt bad... So she got off me and didn t finish. However she said before hitting me, she was so raging angry at me that impulsively she started to hit me. She doesn t know why she was angry at me, she just was. She said if she could have made me bleed, she would have. She doesn t think it s something she is into for erotic purposes, I told her if it is, don t be embarrassed and let s talk about it. She is quite controlling with our day to days, she has admitted that she doesn t like when I take charge in bed, she likes to tell me what to do and follow her requests. She isn t a look into my eyes passionate lover. She can be on again off again with love and affection. We have been dating for over a year, both in our later 20's. I'm baffled by the lack of communication and her answer just seems confusing. Is she really that confused and doesn't know what's going on? Is she embarrassed that she may be into A more kinky sex life. The thing that sort of put a bit of worry in my mind is she said she all of a sudden was ANGRY and she wanted to HURT me, draw blood somehow but with no erotic purposes. Please help me out.

***** I have since talked to my gf from above*****
Since being unsatisfied with my girlfriends answer I talked to her further about what happen. She was frustrated that we were talking about it again, it had already been talked about and she was already sorry. I told her something doesn't seem right and I feel like we are in a dysfunctional relationship. I told her that I feel she subconsciously hates me. I was ready to leave. If she hates me, I need to know why... So I asked. She said she doesn't hate me but she gets angry / irritated when I don't listen. If I don't listen it snowballs and everything becomes a problem. I do listen but I do make the mistake of having acting certain ways that she has asked that I don't. The most challenging part of this, they are things that are imbedded in my personality. I make a conscious effort to not display these behaviours around her but it's challenging 32 years of being me and turning off a part of me. A head up, she doesn't like when I'm playful, when I randomly hug her or grab her. She finds it immature and she wants to be treated like a woman.. I'm questioning if it's me. However I know hitting should never happen in a relationship.

Ever since we first started dating I've noticed something's that have really made my intuition want me to leave. The controlling behaviour, anger, lack of passion, empathy and care for others. Also moodiness is really difficult to be around. My intuition is telling me that there is something bigger going on. What should I do? Should I leave? What is going on?