I, unfortunately, argue & have verbal altercations with people. I end up feeling much worse than the person I am arguing with....I want to stop this behavior. Sometimes I think it is due to having childhood trauma & my voice on anything never mattered. I am overcompensating for the past?

It usually is not worth my effort or the loss of my dignity as I can be very sharp(knowing just what will hurt the person the most), and I say these things all "wide eyed , calm and innocent"..HAHAHa....This has to stop on my part..My T even pointed this out...She know I have a "good & huge heart", which I do...but when I feel wronged, or betrayed, I just cannot control it.