I think you are a talent person.
I have assumed that many affected mind people are talented persons in this forum.
You know how to speak to expose your thoughts.
After reading a thousando psychology books probably you will expose your thoughts wondderfully.

All we know the interesting question. Change to feel better.

This is the first target and all we can get a tiny target with the same clever thoughts.
All we need is focus in a simple and tiny target.

Think
Simplify
Select a behavior you want to change, or a part of it. And change it.

The change make happy to us.
Is not enough to understand. It's necessary change what you decide to change.
Even is not necesary to understand our past behavior.
Little changes forever.

Don't say, just do it.

I think is a way to feel better. New habits. Change your reactions.

It's a long road discover why you are jealous or narcisist . Or whatever you think you are.