That didn't seem like it sounded like an erotic bdsm type of bedroom behavior.

If she cannot be frank and open about what she's feeling in any given moment, or close to it as possible, then counseling might be something she needs.

May be time to take an internal inventory about your relationship, where you see it headed, the good, bad, the ugly of it all.

Truly know where you stand, so that whatever decisions you make are with conviction.