Gloria, I have been watching this thread but have kept quiet because my reaction was strong due to my own issues. I am glad your T told you it wasn't okay for her to work with both of you. It's not. I am also glad she was confronting you about staying where you are being abused, in a loving way. I hope she will back up and help you process this all now because you will move at your own speed and ultimately make the decision you feel is best for you and the kids when you are ready. Good luck and please be safe.