I have been alone for over 10 years, and haven't had sex for well over 15. my marriage and long term relationship after that were both controlling, mentally and emotionally abusive. I was isolated, not allowed friends, told what to do and when to do it. I lived in constant fear. it took a lot of courage to leave. I have always feared that I would attract the same type of man so I have just decided that I would stay away from men. I am perfectly content alone. it just doesn't seem worth it to me to give up my freedom cause I have never got any benefits out of a relationship. I think about it every now and then but then I think how much I enjoy watching what I want to watch on tv, only worrying about making dinner for myself when I want and what I want, going to bed any time I want to and moving around as much as I want, going out whenever I want without permission or feeling guilty about it, only cleaning up after myself. why would I want to give all this up? it just isn't worth it for the drama of a relationship.........