the problem with his side is there are so many proven lies. I'm not saying we're not at fault for many things, but until he can be truly honest with himself, with a therapist, with others how can we know what is true? Do I blame his parents for his behavior? No.

Do I think communication should have been better - yes. He didn't want me talking to them because he said it made things worse. He didn't want them talking to anyone.

I love that kid. I was on his side. I wanted and begged to help him. I believed him. Until I realized so many things were not adding up.

How can you help someone who won't let you?

Do I feel I failed? YES. Do I feel like a crappy parent - hell yes. No argument there. I am still worried/for and about him. I truly want him happy & healthy. If I sounded like I was pointing fingers, that was not my intention. I tried to explain the best I could, but unless you experience it, it's hard to know.