(((Raceka))) I think dealing with your childhood issues is brave and a path to healing for you. Hang in there.

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I don't understand why your T is talking about termination. Other people have brought this up. I'm becoming terrified that my T will drop this bomb on me one of these days but I don't think I'm anywhere near ready -- I have so much work to do. Do you know why he mentioned it? If he keeps reassuring you, then why did he say it in the first place?

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This is an interesting question for all of us in therapy. I think maybe T's like to bring it up well in advance of termination, just to plant the seed, so we have in the back of our minds that therapy is not forever. My T has not brought it up yet (we've been seeing each other for 7 months), but he did tell me once that he provides only short term therapy, which he defined as up to 3 years. He is not the sort of practitioner to provide endless years of therapy to someone. So he has planted this seed in my mind that one day our therapy will be over. I guess the ideal for me would be if I could solve my worst problems with him, and have a roadmap for my future to let me keep working on my problems on my own, but have permission to see him once in a while for a "check-up." Like it would be great to be able to see him once a month once we are "done" with therapy, but that would probably be too often for him--perhaps something like once every 3-6 months would be acceptable. And more frequently if a major crisis comes up. I have no idea if this would be OK with him, and it is really premature to even be thinking about this, but it did cross my mind. I really can't see doing therapy with anyone else in the future. I'm too attached to my T--it's either gonna be him or no one.