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Originally Posted by musinglizzy
She still had some work ahead of her as far as gaining my trust, but she tailored my therapy and her boundaries around me and my personality.... she figured out pretty quickly that I wasn't going to fully trust her unless I had an idea of who she is as a person. So she has disclosed enough to help me get more comfortable with her, and continues to, if it happens to come up in my session.
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That's amazing musinglizzy. She really is a keeper. The self disclosure was very important for me as well. It helped me feel more like I was confiding in a friend and not somebody on the clock. I don't think disclosure is necessary or even a good thing in some cases, but for people with massive trust issues like you and I have, it would be a must.
My T never said it outright, but it feels like he's coming from a loving place, too.
Sadly, because of the clinic program I'm in, I can no longer go to him and have to find someone else for long term. That scares me because I don't connect to or trust Ts that easily. I spent a year with him trying to cope with my c-ptsd. I went through so much with him and now I have to go through all of it again with someone new. I'm not sure I want to do that. It took me so long to trust him, now it's over.