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Remember just because it is a couples therapy session doesn't mean you can't bring up individual concerns as well.

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Lemon, I didn't know that was permitted. That's good to hear. I would hate to ask T in our couples session if I could have an individual session too and have him say no in front of my husband. Rejection is bad enough, but in the triad setting, I would be devastated. Thanks so much for your encouragement. Maybe I will try what SecretGarden suggested and try to get a few minutes alone with T at the beginning of our session.


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I supposed every T is different in how they handle the individuals in a couples session. Our pattern has been for my T to ask each of us how we are at the beginning of each couples session. Since the individual effects the marriage I think most T's know they can't ignore the individual. My T will steer us to couples issues and deal with my individual stuff in our private session, but she allows some time to understand where each of us are at emotionally and what has been going on in our lives.

I know that fear of rejection in front of your husband must be hard, but from what you've said about your T that doesn't seem likely. Good luck