He sits definitely far away, at around 8-10 feet from me. It never changes. Only once or twice in 5 years, we sat for a couple of minutes next to each other to read something or show one another something. I am very sensitive to the slightest change and sometimes when he talks to me while walking me to the door, it feels too close; although I long for closeness, it makes me want to hide and puts up my defenses.