I really identify with the title of your thread. My mom never treated me as if I had real feelings or was a real person. The kind of scenario you describe could have happened to me, my feelings were never important, I never mattered, which is how I see the way you were treated by your mom in your mom. It is horrible to be treated this way by your mom, the one person to whom you should really matter. I'm a mom now and I would never ever treat my kids like that. Sounds like you have a good T.