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Old Nov 25, 2014, 03:20 AM
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Maternal erotic transference is very common and very normal. My therapist said it's a beautiful thing and needs to be respected. The adult part of us converts the feelings into adult sexual feelings because we are adults but it's really about our baby selves/ needs. Keep on taking about it and be mindful not to attack yourself for feeling normal feelings. They aren't shameful but perhaps having sexual feelings and fantasies repulses you? (It would be helpful to talk about your feelings about sex) You are allowed to have them and to enjoy them. It will get worked through and out as the therapy progresses. I found that by talking about, and understanding them, they lessened and eventually went away. My therapist was able to freely talk about it without being sexual or acting out in any way the sexual side of it with me.(a fatal mistake I hear so often happening with members here) and that really helped me. I learned to embrace the feelings and to know they are ok. If I l experience them now I just allow them to be and am curious as to what is happening.

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