Yes people generally learn about how to orgasm by masturbating and finding out what works for them. Generally there needs to be clitoral stimulation while having intercourse...or while mastubating to have a clitoral orgasm or multiples.

The squirting orgasm that you speak of is also often referred to as female ejaculation. That would be a G-Spot orgasm. First things first. Work on the clitoral orgasm and go from there...

And remember...Pornos are not reality...lol

Enjoy.