Hi, the Grey Wolf, I'm also a new user in this board but I wanted to say welcome.
It's great when you can share problems and thoughts with people that are like you.
I wanted to put the stress on what Panda says. It's fine if you are not interesting in a diagnosis but going to therapy is really helpfull.

The way snap has explained the differences between an illness such as social phobia and a disorder, that is AvPD is clear and right. I couldn't sum them up better.
Good luck, honey!