Maybe you feel like you have wasted 14 years, but at 27 you so young! Try not to feel the pressure to get married and have kids because your friends have done it. Maybe those things don't motivate you enough because it's not really what you want. At 27 you don't need responsibilities like that, not until you are ready to take care of yourself. You can't overlook your own needs which is what you have to do when you start a family. So maybe those things can wait and you can focus on finding and/or redefining yourself. You have no one else to focus on now, it's the perfect time and you have not wasted anything. You can go to school, train for a career, travel, take care of yourself and be healthy. You don't want this to rule your life and keep you isolated for years on end. There are a lot of women out there in their 40's, 50's and beyond finally being treated for eating disorders after 20 or more years of unhappiness. I really hope you are able to get the help you need and take that first important step.