Wow. No wonder you're in therapy with a mom who takes sides against you with your brother. She shouldn't even get involved. This wasn't her fight. It was between your brother and you and you have a right to stick up for yourself.

Asperger's isn't an excuse to be rude to someone doing a favor.

My therapist seemed like the first person in my life to acknowledge that I could feel grief over loss. When my parents died, everyone in my life acted like I was a huge burden who should be grateful for their care. Which is true - I was a financial burden.

But no one in my family during that time acknowledged that maybe I was a very hurt and scared girl who was very sad over losing her parents. If it weren't for therapy, I wouldn't even have been able to type that sentence.

It sounds like your therapist is helping you to at least see the kind of treatment you deserve, which is great progress. It still sucks to be held to non-human standards, though.