Since my wildly unsuccessful therapy, I've done my best to discard the entire framework and vocabulary installed, trying to live life in more immediate, rather than theoretical terms. (That's not easy.)
Therapy did nothing but leave me more self-pitying and persecuted, reinforcing that anointed people, like therapists, had a wherewithall and life wisdom I lacked. It wasn't until years later that I realized people who pretend to have Life's Answers--don't.
What did help, exercise, yoga, travel, work accomplishments, achieving competence, pursuing goals, friendships, observing people with traits I admired. Therapy was not a short-cut for more maturity. (I'm still a square peg, but a far less tentative and anxious one.)
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Originally Posted by boredporcupine
Sure. "Over-regulated" means someone who has their emotions under too much control which causes a problem for them. For example, they may feel just "blah" or like they aren't really living, or their significant others may complain that they are cold or distant. In that case it may make sense for a T to really encourage them to feel more.
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And to complicate things further, there well can be a disparity between a client's appearance and what she really feels. While seeming "too under control" a person actually may bearing such a constant burden of anxiety/fear, that they appear distant.
But it's a good point, that therapists can assume one size fits all. Additionally, they're types who'll leap to involve in other people's problems, maybe not understanding those with an opposite approach to the world.