I have a friend who is probably dependent on alcohol. I did a pretend biopsychosocial assesment interview on his future wife and she mentioned that he probably had borderline personality disorder (Doctor's opinion). She might have schizoaffective disorder (being required by law to take anti-psychotic medication). She claims that she doesn't need the medication which bothers me because I think she probably does. I have not ever argued with her claim because I just don't know if she'd listen to me or distrust me like she does her doctor. She complains that the medication makes her hand shake and I suggested that she talk to her doctor about it. She said that her doctor would just up her dosage if she complained. I think I would have trouble trusting a doctor if he/she was to over rule my right to say no to medication however she has been in hospital repeteadly. She says that they shouldn't have put her in the hospital. I have a hard time believing her on that when she has descriped to me some symptoms of depression (I have a tendency to get depressed and she has experienced similar problems). He got mad at her and threw a chair at her. She is pressing charges yet they still live together. How is that possible? They are not making him take breathalizer tests on a regular basis. He tells me that he has reduced his alcohol use but he still drinks. She makes sure to keep him from drinking for about a day before the breathalizer test. I pointed out that reducing his drinking is better than no change at all. He also told me that drinking helps him with his anxiety about the upcoming appointments and his fear that his future wife will leave him. I told him that she has stuck by you for the most part and that she probably won't leave you now. I ofcourse said that I can't know for sure.
I worry about them. I have tried to pray for them some. They just have so many problems right now. I hope they help him to quit drinking rather than just treat it like a probation officer might. His court date is in June.I think they told my pastor all of this too. I know that she is a good listener and might be better able to confront him when it is neccessary unlike me. I tend to feel like I need them as friends because I have few friends.