Thanks Hopefull, withit, and sister.

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I suspect that your T would say "yes" and try to schedule an individual session if you requested one. He might even bring up your phone message in your couples session and schedule one for you. I doubt that your T is saying "no" or rejecting you. He probably just didn't get the message and will probably bring it up during the couples session.

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Hopefull, I now know why you chose your screen name because it sure fits you. Thanks for your hopeful comments. I hope T will bring this up tomorrow and schedule me. I so hope you are right. (((hugs)))

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When is your next individual session with T?

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I have no individual sessions at all scheduled with my T. That is why I called him, to try to schedule one. If I could see him individually, I would definitely tell him how I am feeling. I am wondering if he is willing to give "my family" only one session per week, and that's it. Either my husband and me together or just me, but not both of those combinations in one week. And that's why he didn't return my call. I got too greedy and wanted too many sessions for my family. I crossed a boundary. I sure wish he would just tell me this stuff if this is the case, instead of letting me stumble blindly into his "rules."

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I would call t again and leave a message saying I really need to talk to her before coming for another marital session. I'd say it's important for us to talk before having a marital session and could she give you some time over the phone or in person?

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withit, that's exactly what I said in my phone message last week and I got ignored. The thing is, my T has told me that he doesn't check phone messages every day (he has a voice mail, no secretary), and so if I left him a phone message tonight, there's a very good chance he wouldn't even get it before our couples session tomorrow. I had been counting on hearing from him today (hope springs eternal), but he didn't call.

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Can you usurp the couples session somehow and turn it into an individual session. Can you just ask your husband if he would mind not going until next week together?

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sister, that is an idea I've had but I don't think it is fair to my husband. In session tomorrow we have some important nuts and bolts stuff to go over with T to get this show (the divorce) on the road. I can't ask my husband to wait on this. And it is important for both of us, not just him. I don't think this is the answer, but thanks for the suggestion.

As an example of how I have not been able to process much since last session, I have not written in my journal in over a week, and I usually write all about my session to help process it. I've not been able to do anything.

Thanks so much everyone, for letting me go on and on about this. I'll let you know what happens tomorrow.....