Well, we don't do swingers stuff, but I have been considering looking for BDSM meets/ local websites. I'm actually a completely legit massage therapist and have never done any "happy endings", so I get worried about people I know professionally finding out I like BDSM. Massage therapy is not an easy field to get respect in because of all those Asian massage places around Florida. That's why I've steered clear of BDSM places thus far. I've tried craigslist, but you get a lot of guys looking for pics and old/ugly women, or women that are just plain crazy. And not not the crazy sexy way either .