Conditioned response isn't really revolutionary. And, personally, I believe that some psych problems go a little too deep to be affected by it.

Anyway, I hear what you say coffeelover. I also struggle with negative comments. I believe that the things said in anger are more representative of others' true feelings.....I am trying to change my views. I do not hold grudges and do not WANT to think this way.

I think a lot has to do with self-esteem....If I had a solid foundation, then I wouldn't believe what is said.

It makes sense to me. I suffer from depression and anxiety and the self esteem issue is a big factor in it.
Unfortunately, I don't know how to fix it. Affirmations don't do anything for me...