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Originally Posted by StbGuy
I find all of those aspects extremely hard. Self worth - I feel I don't have any, I can't see why I am important in any way at all. Self care - couldn't care less, I have a urge not to want to be healthy and live long, I want to go early. Assertiveness - the hardest one of all - every time I want to apply this aspect I think it is the same as walking all over someone to get what I want, then I just abandon the idea and convince myself the thing is not in line with others and what they want. I don't feel I deserve anything. I just don't see myself as a worthy individual who deserves any of it. I see others as worthy and deserving though. It's weird.
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Assertiveness is about having good level of self value and regard, expressing your own interests and needs clearly and being considerate and respecting others as well. Finding balance, having boundaries, so people dont take advantage of you, use you. If you dont like or dont want to do something someone wants, you dont have to do it to please, satisfy them. You need to look at what the underlying factors are that make you feel unworthy undeserving and try to tackle them with help of a therapist maybe. Look at unhelpful limiting beliefs. I know that for me assertiveness is important but yes it is challenging.