Age regression is absolutely normal within the theraputic relationship, and for me it happened outside too for most of my life. I would unconsiously be looking for a perfect mother. For me being adopted this is quite normal, but also being raised by parents that hadn't dealt with their child issues prevented me from growing up emotionally.

When I look around at the world in general now, I see that the majority of the general population are infact emotionally inmature and carry that further and I see the world as also emotionally maturing. I mean its only about 150yrs ago that people here in London slept pennyless in the streets, we;ve moved on from there. The awarenss of the world is changing, abeit slowly.

I use to think when I started therapy that I was the only one that needed to grow up. I mentioned to T that I use to think of my husband as being "sorted" emotionally mature, but now I even see his immature tendencys and said to T more in jest that maybe its the wrong person in therapy, that he should be there. She replied "alongside you".

I think some of us have reached an emotional bottom either faster than others or because we've experienced just that bit more and have been brought to our knees and just cannot continue normal living as others who seem to just have an odd quirk do.

I have a theory that it is on the strong that survive, going right back to the egg and sperm stage and for some reason our journey is to aid the world to emotionally grow up. It takes individuals to make a difference.

The remark about therapy eventually ending was maybe not the best way to have had it presented to you. I know when I've talked about ending, T is always quick to point out that ending is somethign we work toward and it can take as long as a yr just talking about ending, and we're not there yet. That "year" is something I hold onto, I know I'm not even "there" yet.

Geez I think I've rambled here :-(