For me it's about realizing that I am not the cause of this depression. It's not any action that I have done to make myself feel this way (I know because I've spent years obsessing about which particular action or choice has led me to where I am). I found a lot of power in admitting to myself that the reason I was depressed...today...was because of physical processes that were out of my control at their onset. It just came over me one day, and then it was there to deal with.

That's not to say that you are powerless and can do nothing to move beyond it. It's just to say that it becomes easier to see the solution when you release control of the self-blame and realize that this is how you were built and that, until now, you haven't been able to see it clearly for what it is: a chemical reaction in your brain that brings about the onslaught of these feelings.

There's nothing to fix. You aren't broken (even if you feel that way). I used to compare myself to Humpty Dumpty...fall down and break into a million little pieces and then spend my life putting myself back together like a puzzle. Such a futile effort.

Accept the feelings you feel and turn and face them.