I understand the having to wait.....I ended up having to wait 13 years (longer actually) because of the financial mess that he got us into.....I have been waiting the last 7 years on top of those 13 because of the IRS problems he got me into with my inheritance that I used to leave him with.

When the door opens be ready to fly & just be watching for the opportunity....it will happen. I blew it when we first got married & stayed married instead of getting divorced then...I hid out in my degree & my career not realizing how horrible life would be without those escapes from him.

I understand going from dysfunctional parents to dysfunctional H. I had no idea that he was as dysfunctional as he ended up being. I blamed the dysfunctional of my parents on their lack of education....but with insight now after they have died....I realize it was a lot more than that.

You have a lot of struggles to work through....glad you have a good T who works with you & through the issues that hit you like this....keep up the good work