You could try different mascaras, maybe read some reviews online. They vary in their staying power, even those that aren't specifically designed to be waterproof. I'm not a frequent crier in therapy, but it's happened a few times and my Almay Intense i-color mascara pretty much stayed where it was. I've recently bought a different brand, but this new one is supposed to be "zero smudge" so we'll see.

I wonder, too, if it's all the wiping and dabbing the eyes that causes the smudging, and there wouldn't be as much if you just let the tears flow. The handful of times I've cried there, it's been what this blogger calls "commando" style (I don't mind crying that much there, but I have some weirdness about taking her tissues) and no mascara issues. Then again, it may be the mascara brand...

If you cry often alone at home, I guess you have plenty of opportunity to test these factors in private.