Some people are manipulative good at getting you to do things for them and then making you feel bad or unappreciated or rejecting you . If you act passive, and like a rescuer you're bound to get negative abusive responses from others. Helping others is good to certain extent as long as you don't neglect yourself, self sacrifice. Being ok with yourself, and being kind, taking care of self enables you to help others more effectively.Having boundaries, saying no when you need to is important. This is linked with depression ;self sacrificing and destructive behaviours. These need to be tackled.