I think you would be surprised. Guys are much less likely to say no to a coffee or a chat or anything really from a girl they don't know. Girls are much less likely to engage a guy they don't know or at least dont lnow sum1 that knows them because they are more concerned about safety. I am a guy if you wanted to have a coffee with me or just talk I would not say no. I don't care that much about looks anyway I am sure you are not as bad as you are trying to tell us.