Yearning, you are doing well to share this here. You're right. It's not good for you or the person/people at the other end who are responding to what they believe is a crisis. For one thing, it takes them away from a child or teen who is in crisis. You know this, of course. The question is how to get your needs met another way, because they are valid needs. I hope you can get the courage to tell your therapist. She sounds like a very supportive, non-judgmental person in your life.