It's like my first therapist said, "Sometimes the only person you can save is yourself".

Small consolation, I know ... After enduring 33.5 years of horrid abuses by my family of origin, I finally kicked them to the curb for good.

I did attempt to reconcile with my only sister, but it failed miserably after our mother (primary abuser) died and she reconnected with our brother (secondary abuser). As soon as she started talking all that old abusive crap again, I told her that I was not about to go back and drink the koolaid.

It was just as painful, if not moreso, having to sever all contact that 2nd time, and as much as it grieves me, there won't be a third attempt to reconnect. There was another brother too, but he left and didn't look back several years before any of the rest of us.

It sucks to come from families like this as it is totally impossible to explain to those who've never been there how it came to be that you don't have anything to do with your family of origin and why.

I Just wanted you to know you aren't alone and that as painful as it is, sometimes our toxic families of origin are the ones that cause us the most damage and, therefore, are the very people we need to stay away from for our own physical and emotional well-being the most.

Sorry you're having to feel the sting of all this too.

Sincerely,
Pfrog!