I agree. Last night I went on a first date with a man I had met online. We had drinks at a pub on 3rd Ave. in midtown Manhattan. We had a nice time, he was educated etc, came off as a quality kind of man. I decided to see him again. To my surprise he suggested going back to his place "to watch movies." I said no, he kept asking, I said: come on, I just met you. I made it clear I wanted to wait for sex. We went outside, he offered me a ride back to my parking garage. Like an idiot I said yes. In the car, he started heavy making out. He's a big guy, I'm a light girl. He ignored my no's, but no, I did not fight him or scream or run out of the car. I should have. He drove me back to the garage. Today I woke up with bruises on my legs and feeling so disgusted I can't describe it. And today he texted me like nothing had happened - so how is your day going. Now I'm reading a New York Times article on something called "Gray rape." I think that's what happened. And I guess he thought everything was totally fine and we'd meet up again! Well no. If you wanted to date me, you could have. But you can't use the same woman as dating material and a cheap f****.