Personally I don't believe you owe this person anything. It is really up to you, wantwhatIcanthave. If your desire to be loved by your father is that strong that you want to take a chance, this is something only you can decide. But I would certainly urge caution on your part. If he was drunk when he made this most recent call, he clearly hasn't changed &, after all these years, I would say he's probably not likely to. I'm afraid you may just be opening yourself up to allot of additional trouble from him. But, there again, this is really a decision you'll have to make. Do you really want to try to establish a loving relationship with him enough to risk all of the additional trauma he may bring into your life? Also, if he was drunk when he called, will he even remember that he made this most recent call to you? My best wishes to you with regard to this situation...