I'm not too good at forgiving people for insensitivity. I call it dropping people, I cut off all contact with them. I do this when I feel like I can't count on them. I try to be very tolerant and understanding of friends and family, but once I feel like they are not reciprocating I drop them. I started doing this thinking it was the answer to the passive way I used to deal with people, but this isn't assertiveness. It hurts me more than them and just makes me lonely.