Hey Thunder,

I see that you are a fairly new here - welcome to the forums and thanks for posting! You will find this place to be very welcoming and full of wisdom and insight.

The suspicious and paranoid thoughts that you are experiencing are relatively normal for any relationship. I think anyone who claims otherwise is just not capable of grasping the intricacies of all relationships and the many things - that can and often do, arise.

The first thing I think when I read your post - is how wonderful it must feel to have a boyfriend who is willing to put a tracker on his phone! I think that is amazing! There are many people who would absolutely LOVE to be able to do that. Unfortunately, for most of us: when we ask the other person in the relationship to do something like that - they can react in any number of ways. Usually it hurts us more and truly tests the stability of the relationship as a whole. Ultimately it was never worth bringing up.

So just know how lucky you are - and in my opinion: the fact that your boyfriend is even willing to do that at all - is a sign that he has nothing to hide.

The real problem is when that is not enough for you. I assume you have voiced your concern about this? Regardless - I think that you should be wary how you approach it. The last thing you want to do is ruin the relationship.

I have very little experience in relationships - but I know that paranoia became an issue. For me it was learning to distract myself when those thoughts came up. If I was bombarded with thoughts and I did nothing to stay busy - I would convince myself that something was going on. Nine times out of ten I was wrong. And when I was right - it was very minor stuff that I had no right to question...

I hope this helps,

Try and reflect on what you have already: a boyfriend who clearly values you enough to allow tracking on his phone! He is fully aware of your insecurities and he is willing to help you work through them - because to him: you are clearly worth it! That is amazing. I am sorry that you are feeling this way despite his efforts to help you.

Personally - I think there is nothing else that he can (reasonably) do in order to ease your suspicious feelings. In this case: I think you should either distract, talk to a friend or a therapist about ways to deal with these feelings, or very calmly approach your boyfriend and let him know how you feel. In my opinion you should talk to others before you talk to your boyfriend. I know for my own experience in relationships - if you can avoid talking to your boyfriend about something like this - when he has already allowed you to track his phone - then it may be a better way to deal with the situation.

Question: Do you feel the need to follow your boyfriend and see what he does throughout the day?

Thanks,
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