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Originally Posted by GreenMoss
I'm not too good at forgiving people for insensitivity. I call it dropping people, I cut off all contact with them. I do this when I feel like I can't count on them. I try to be very tolerant and understanding of friends and family, but once I feel like they are not reciprocating I drop them. I started doing this thinking it was the answer to the passive way I used to deal with people, but this isn't assertiveness. It hurts me more than them and just makes me lonely.
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You are right. It's not assertive. I used to cut off all contact as well but understood it's not a healthy position.
At least, we have to consider that all are human, then the fact that people don't correspond to our affection in the same way as us, doesn't mean they reject us or that they don't consider us.
I have been called naive and fool for wanting to see the good side of a person even when (s)he has strong negative points, but I don't regret.
Perhaps, the reason is that I don't like people to judge me, so I don't judge them either.