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Originally Posted by GreenMoss
I'm not too good at forgiving people for insensitivity. I call it dropping people, I cut off all contact with them. I do this when I feel like I can't count on them. I try to be very tolerant and understanding of friends and family, but once I feel like they are not reciprocating I drop them. I started doing this thinking it was the answer to the passive way I used to deal with people, but this isn't assertiveness. It hurts me more than them and just makes me lonely.
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I do exactly the same thing and then end up alone, miserable and resentful. But we should always try to forgive even though sometimes it can be hard. Nobody is perfect including me and the way I try to look at it when somebody treats me like crap maybe they have also been hurt in someway in the past. The problem also is that I always blame myself for not being more likeable or worthy rather then the other person so I hide to avoid being hurt.