It will probably be difficult for any divorce to be "friendly" at all times. It will probably have its ups and downs. Please let each of the know now (today) that you understand that they value your friendship and you do to. That you know that there may be some tough times ahead. That in order for you and your husband to remain friends that you will be unable to "take sides" or "agree with one and not the other". Letting them know ahead of time will hopefully lesson the awkwardness when it does happen - as it will happen even after this kind of discussion. Divorce is messy...

I'm sure there are plenty of individuals that are very successful at raising children dispite any mental health issues. I'm always amazed about the how well behaved comments I get about my three...