I have been in a "relationship" for 14 years with the father of my children. I believe he is in love with some other girl who "had to set boundaries" with him. She is 20 years younger than him and had to make it "perfectly clear to him that she is not interested." He claims they are only friends and now that may be true, I do believe he tried to be with her and he does not get why I cannot stand for their "friendship". He claims that I have a problem because she is a girl and that I have a problem with all girls he is friends with and it is my fault that he does not hang out with them more and his friends in general. Really? Am I the crazy controlling one here?

I am the one who has no money for anything because I have to pay the majority of the bills. I can't go out or join an activity, and in fact he has accused me of sleeping with everyone from the night cleaner to my boss, because I have to work a lot. When he is the one supposedly working overtime and has no money for bills, just lavish gifts for our kids.

I don't think he is working overtime, since she is the one he is calling when he is supposedly at work and never carries his phone on him. He has also completely changed his behavior and in fact has said they are two lives who have crossed paths and that is all.

Is it really me?